Confrontation: Is It a Bliss or Curse?

Yeah is it this something which most of us try to avoid as much as we can?

So, what is confrontation? We all know that we are not perfect, but for some reason we try to ignore that fact and see ourselves as flawless creatures; the epitome of awesomeness. I am not saying there is anything wrong with it, one should be proud of him or herself. However, sometimes it is very good to accept our imperfections. On the contrary, people tend to run away from it and live a peaceful life of self denial. So, when these people see their actual reflection in the mirror of confrontation they seriously freak out.

Now, confrontations can be bliss in the ideal world. People will appreciate the one person who confronted him or her. Lets take an example, remind you, this is ideal world experience: A guy walked to his friend put his hand on his shoulder and suggested him to use a deodorant, or advised him not to eat beans at lunch in order to spare other people around him. The friend will hug the person and remember the advice next time, and in the ideal world they would become best friends since that day. One more? Okay lets take the example of a dating couple. No no no I am not talking about bedroom experience; dirty minds. I am talking about the general complaints the girls have with their boyfriends," you never listen to me." Isn't that sounds awful lot familiar? So again in the idealistic world the boyfriend will apologize right away, I told you earlier that this is the ideal world example. Coming back to the apology, he will say "I am sorry and from now on I will listen to everything you will say," and then they lived happily ever after.

So my question is, do we live in the ideal world? Do we? Lets take this two ideal world examples in the real world. The guy confronts his friend with his body odor issue or bad gas issue in real world. Now, his friend will get mad at him if he is lucky else things might get bad from worse. People are very cautious about these two issues. In real world this confrontation will cost the confrontationist his friend. Second case, the guys answer to the girlfriend's usual question, " you never listen to me," would be, "yes, I do listen and I don't know why you bring up these stupid issues." Thus, we wonder why so many people end up single at the end.

Confrontations can be bliss and curse at the same time. It also depends on how people face their fears? Nobody wants to be told what to do and how to do things, and confrontation might also make one feels like being attacked or patronized. Honestly, ideally it is good to be confronted with my fears and imperfections but realistically I don't know if I have that much caliber to handle it. I think keeping open mind helps a lot. So , I will like to mention this cool concepts I saw in the movie 2012 ; they showed Dalai Lama in the movie talking with one of his disciples. The disciple had some doubts and as a result of it, he was not very sure with the outcome. Dalai Lama starts poring tea in his disciple's cup, the cup started to fill to the brim, however Dalai Lama didn't stop, on the other hand, he keeps on pouring and pouring, thus the tea started spilling all over. Then he smiles and says keep your cup of knowledge always empty because once you think its filled then you cannot fit more valuable knowledge into it. So, if we see it from this angle I think confrontations are worth the pain :D.

Cheers
MS